FRED'S BLOGS FOR YOUR READING PLEASURE
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CULTIVATING HAPPINESS.
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How To Thrive During The Winter Seasons Of Life.
Winter can be harsh, especially when it gets frigid, frosty, and downright freezing. Metaphorically, Winter seems to represent difficulties, hardships, and desperation. Winter may arrive when you got laid off from your job, your marriage is crumbling apart, or someone... read more |
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Beat Shame Before Shame Beats You!
Growing up in a traditional Asian home, I was taught to be polite, quiet, shy, humble, and deferential. Conformity to expectations is often emphasized, and emotional outbursts are discouraged. Failure to meet the family's expectations could mean bringing shame and... read more |
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Less Haste, More Grace.
"Whoever believes will not be in haste." Isaiah 28:16 (ESV) "Gracefulness is not possible when life is frenetic, when we are harried, or suffer from overload, time crunch, and a vast multiplicity of commitments and pressures." - Jerome M. Segal, Graceful Simplicity A... read more |
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Be Adaptive to Succeed.
“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip, and it can crash. Become like water my... read more |
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Five Ways to Live Life with Authenticity.
Feeling appreciated is not a bad thing in itself; it can be affirming and positive. It only becomes problematic when it is the focus of all you do. You can't live with authenticity if you are living for the approval of others. According to Dr. Linda Sapadin, PhD.,.. read more |
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There's Fortitude in Solitude.
"Inside myself is a place where I live all alone, and that's where I renew my springs that never dry up." - Pearl Buck Last week, upon arriving in Singapore from the United States, I was immediately placed in quarantine in a hotel for two weeks. Once I have checked in ... read more |
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Finding Your True North.
We will easily get overwhelmed and soon feel exhausted from trying to do too much when we do not focus on what fuels and guides us. However, we will discover peace, energy, and resilience once we have found our true calling in life. Using the hourglass as an illustration, here are three stages ... Read more |
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How To Live Your Day
When was the last time you woke up and realized that today could be the best day of your life? Ready to have a successful day? Implement these 5 simple habits and set yourself up to a productive day. Read more |
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Forgiveness Highlight Your Future
“Without forgiveness, life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” — Roberto Assagioli Unforgiveness is, in a sense, the regular and ongoing maintenance of old pain. Forgiveness, on the other hand, is claiming back the power that was stolen from you. Read More |
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VISUALIZE TO ACTUALIZE
Mental practice or harnessing the power of visualization can get you closer to where you want to be in life, and it can prepare you for success! Many successful athletes, including Tiger Woods, employ such practices of visualizing and rehearsing the positive outcome in their minds before going into their actual games. Read More |
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FOUR THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN YOU'RE DEPRESSED
It can be testing to get yourself to "snap out of it" when you're feeling depressed and pessimistic. But these four tips can help put you on the road to recovery. Read more |
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THE GIFT OF TEARS
"Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness." ― Steve Maraboli A Chinese saying advocates that men should bleed and not tear as it is often perceived as weak. In contrast to that, Dr. Judith Orloff ... Read more |
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PARENTING 101
There's always a constant tension between rules and relationships. On the one hand, parents need rules to set the right boundaries, guidelines, and discipline that will help shape their children's character. On the other hand, parents need to develop relationships to help build trust and love. The simple truth is that children need ... Read more |
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VICTIM OR VICTORY?
"When you chose to live as a victim, you will never become victorious." ― Maria Koszler While it's necessary to claim the role of the victim if you have genuinely been victimized or abused, you cannot move on with your life unless you make the conscious choice to step out of the victim role and into the overcomer role. Read more |
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RAISING CHAMPIONS
Managing people has evolved from command and control to more about development and empowerment in this new millennium. A simple and inexpensive way to improve employees or your children's competencies is through regular coaching sessions Here are five propositions about people development: Read more |
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WHAT CAPTURES YOUR MIND, MASTERS YOU
"Researchers are learning that a change in mind-set has the power to alter neurochemistry. Belief and expectation—the key elements of hope—can block pain by releasing the brain's endorphins and enkephalins, mimicking the effects of morphine." Read more |
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ADAPTABILITY - THE NEW SMART
With COVID-19 creating havoc and anxieties all over the world, being smart is not enough. Being adaptive is the new smart. It is the ability to keep abreast of the challenges and rise above the noise and view the bigger picture that will help one stay positive and move forward. Read more |
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THE BENEFITS OF STILLNESS
Stillness is powerful. It soothes, rejuvenates and calms us. "Being still is like replenishing the stores. It gives us time and space to self-reflect and actually hear our thoughts," said Dr. Karin Lawson, PsyD, a Psychologist. She continues to note that “stillness produces ... Read more |
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SOMETIMES THE BEST WAY FORWARD IS THROUGH
it is possible to heal. It is even possible to thrive. Thriving means more than just an alleviation of symptoms, more than Band-Aids, more than functioning adequately. Thriving means enjoying a feeling of wholeness, satisfaction in your life and work, genuine love and trust in your relationships, pleasure in your body.. Read more |
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SELF CONTROL
“He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.” ― Lao Tzu According to one of the most influential modern psychologists, Walter Mischel, self-control is the capacity to override one's impulse or desire to attain another goal. It is also the ability to ... Read more |
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BENEATH OUR SKIN, WE ARE ALL THE SAME
It is interesting to note that once we peel off our skins, we're all the same. We all have brains, hearts, bones, and other organs functioning the way they should, regardless of our skin colors. There may be some variations, but is not significant at all. Only trained forensic anthropologists could identify and note the minute differences. Read more |
