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CHANGING OUR OUTLOOK

While We Can Our Looks, We Can Change Our OutlooksOur outlook—how we perceive and respond to life's events—directly influences our outcomes. An optimistic outlook fosters resilience, helping us navigate life's challenges with grace and strength. 

Here's how:


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SMILE MORE

Smiling is free therapy. The more you smile, the less you stress, and the better your health. Smiling has been proven beneficial to our physical, psychological, and social health.


𝗣𝗛𝗬𝗦𝗜𝗖𝗔𝗟 𝗛𝗘𝗔𝗟𝗧𝗛:
1. 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗥𝗲𝗱𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:Smiling triggers the release of endorphins

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KEEPING YOUR BRAIN AGILE & YOUTHFUL

Maintaining cognitive agility is crucial as we age. Scientific research supports the notion that certain lifestyle choices can contribute to maintaining cognitive health and preventing age-related decline. Individuals can foster cognitive resilience, support brain health, and potentially reduce the risk of age-related cognitive decline.

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STOP AVOIDING. START LIVING! 

Fear has the power to hold us back, preventing us from taking the necessary steps to move forward in life. The fear of failing, especially when we've experienced it before, traps us in a never-ending cycle, rendering us passive observers of our own lives. We then build walls of protection, inadvertently sabotaging our own future.
But it doesn't have to be this way. 

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TURNING WOUNDS INTO WISDOM

"𝗧𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗪𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗪𝗶𝘀𝗱𝗼𝗺" can be a liberating thought. It suggests that our pain and challenges can be transformed into valuable lessons and personal growth. It is about taking the complex experiences we encounter, such as emotional wounds, setbacks, or failures, and using them as opportunities for learning, resilience, and personal development.

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PATHWAY TO WISDOM

In the journey of life, obtaining wisdom is essential. Wisdom has been intertwined in all aspects of life and can lead to more incredible blessings and success. Far from mere knowledge, it is the ability to use knowledge productively. While gaining wisdom can be a long process, we can find guidance on the path to wisdom by exploring these three pathways.

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OPPORTUNITIES ARE OUT THERE. IT'S UP TO US TO CREATE THE OUTCOME.

In his acceptance speech for winning an Oscar for Best Supporting Actor, 𝐊𝐞 𝐇𝐮𝐲 𝐐𝐮𝐚𝐧 said, "𝘔𝘺 𝘫𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘺 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘯 𝘢 𝘣𝘰𝘢𝘵. 𝘐 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝘺𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘨𝘦𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘱. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘩𝘰𝘸, 𝘐 𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘱 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘏𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘺𝘸𝘰𝘰𝘥'𝘴 𝘣𝘪𝘨𝘨𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘨𝘦." He also challenged the audience, "𝘋𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘮𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘯. 𝘐 𝘢𝘭𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘨𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘶𝘱 𝘰𝘯 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘦. 𝘛𝘰 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦: 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘮𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦."

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𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐀𝐃𝐕𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐔𝐑𝐄𝐒, 𝐋𝐈𝐅𝐄 𝐖𝐈𝐋𝐋 𝐁𝐄 𝐁𝐎𝐑𝐈𝐍𝐆 & 𝐒𝐇𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐎𝐖.​

"𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘵, 𝘵𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘶𝘵𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘦𝘢𝘨𝘦𝘳𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝘯𝘦𝘸𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦." ― Eleanor Roosevelt

Being adventurous can be beneficial, according to Dr. Bianca Wittmann, Ph.D., of the Center for Mind, Brain, and Behavior, the University of Marburg, and Justus Liebig University Giessen in Germany.
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3 SIMPLE HACKS TO GET BACK ON YOUR FEET!

We are inevitably going to face setbacks. We all do. It's impossible to avoid these setbacks in life. But it is not about falling or failing; it is the way we respond that matters. The truth is, we don't have to stay down. We can get back on our feet. Again. And Again. Just like the bobo dolls. Here are three simple hacks to get back on your feet in 2023!

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ALL WORK AND NO PLAY MAKES ONE OLD AND GRAY
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“𝐖𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰 𝐨𝐥𝐝; 𝐰𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰 𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠.” - George Bernard Shaw
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Play is an integral part of life, not only during childhood but also into adulthood and later in life. However, the ironic twist in life is that the older one gets, the more serious one becomes. 

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5 HANDLES TO A LIFE WELL-LIVED

All of us have the gift of life. The question is how to best use that gift. That said, here are five common handles we can apply for a life well-lived.

#1 Humility - Humble people are better able to cope with anxiety about their mortality. Humble leaders are not only better liked, they are also more effective and have better self-control.

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THE BENEFITS OF SMILING
"Any man could, if he were so inclined, be the sculptor of his own brain." ― Santiago Ramon y Cajal,  a Spanish Neuroscientist and Pathologist.

As it turns out, there is solid evidence that smiling can do us a world of good.

In a fascinating study at the University of Kansas, researchers had subjects use chopsticks to shape their mouths into smiles or frowns, and then induce a stressful situation. 
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CULTIVATING HAPPINESS.
​Our brains are not wired to keep us happy. Instead, it is designed to keep us safe by looking out for possible and potential threats. The thing it cared most about is our survival. For instance, if you were to walk too closely to the edge of a cliff to have a closer...
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How To Thrive During The Winter Seasons Of Life.
Winter can be harsh, especially when it gets frigid, frosty, and downright freezing. Metaphorically, Winter seems to represent difficulties, hardships, and desperation. Winter may arrive when you got laid off from your job, your marriage is crumbling apart, or someone...
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Beat Shame Before Shame Beats You!
Growing up in a traditional Asian home, I was taught to be polite, quiet, shy, humble, and deferential. Conformity to expectations is often emphasized, and emotional outbursts are discouraged. Failure to meet the family's expectations could mean bringing shame and...
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Less Haste, More Grace.
"Whoever believes will not be in haste." Isaiah 28:16 (ESV) "Gracefulness is not possible when life is frenetic, when we are harried, or suffer from overload, time crunch, and a vast multiplicity of commitments and pressures." - Jerome M. Segal, Graceful Simplicity A...
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Be Adaptive to Succeed.
“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip, and it can crash. Become like water my...
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Five Ways to Live Life with Authenticity.
Feeling appreciated is not a bad thing in itself; it can be affirming and positive. It only becomes problematic when it is the focus of all you do. You can't live with authenticity if you are living for the approval of others. According to Dr. Linda Sapadin, PhD.,..
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There's Fortitude in Solitude.
"Inside myself is a place where I live all alone, and that's where I renew my springs that never dry up." - Pearl Buck


Last week, upon arriving in Singapore from the United States, I was immediately placed in quarantine in a hotel for two weeks. Once I have checked in ...
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Finding Your True North.
We will easily get overwhelmed and soon feel exhausted from trying to do too much when we do not focus on what fuels and guides us. However, we will discover peace, energy, and resilience once we have found our true calling in life.

Using the hourglass as an illustration, here are three stages ...
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How To Live Your Day
​When was the last time you woke up and realized that today could be the best day of your life?
Ready to have a successful day? Implement these 5 simple habits and set yourself up to a productive day.
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Forgiveness Highlight Your Future
“Without forgiveness, life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” 
— Roberto Assagioli
Unforgiveness is, in a sense, the regular and ongoing maintenance of old pain.
Forgiveness, on the other hand, is claiming back the power that was stolen from you.
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VISUALIZE TO ACTUALIZE
Mental practice or harnessing the power of visualization can get you closer to where you want to be in life, and it can prepare you for success! Many successful athletes, including Tiger Woods, employ such practices of visualizing and rehearsing the positive outcome in their minds before going into their actual games.
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FOUR THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN YOU'RE DEPRESSED
It can be testing to get yourself to "snap out of it" when you're feeling depressed and pessimistic. But these four tips can help put you on the road to recovery.
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THE GIFT OF TEARS
"Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness." ― Steve Maraboli
A Chinese saying advocates that men should bleed and not tear as it is often perceived as weak. In contrast to that, Dr. Judith Orloff ...
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PARENTING 101
There's always a constant tension between rules and relationships. 


On the one hand, parents need rules to set the right boundaries, guidelines, and discipline that will help shape their children's character. On the other hand, parents need to develop relationships to help build trust and love. The simple truth is that children need ...
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VICTIM OR VICTORY?
"When you chose to live as a victim, you will never become victorious." ― Maria Koszler

While it's necessary to claim the role of the victim if you have genuinely been victimized or abused, you cannot move on with your life unless you make the conscious choice to step out of the victim role and into the overcomer role. 
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RAISING CHAMPIONS
Managing people has evolved from command and control to more about development and empowerment in this new millennium. A simple and inexpensive way to improve employees or your children's competencies is through regular coaching sessions

Here are five propositions about people development:
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WHAT CAPTURES YOUR MIND, MASTERS YOU

"Researchers are learning that a change in mind-set has the power to alter neurochemistry. Belief and expectation—the key elements of hope—can block pain by releasing the brain's endorphins and enkephalins, mimicking the effects of morphine."

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ADAPTABILITY - THE NEW SMART

With COVID-19 creating havoc and anxieties all over the world, being smart is not enough. Being adaptive is the new smart. It is the ability to keep abreast of the challenges and rise above the noise and view the bigger picture that will help one stay positive and move forward.

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THE BENEFITS OF STILLNESS
Stillness is powerful. It soothes, rejuvenates and calms us. "Being still is like replenishing the stores. It gives us time and space to self-reflect and actually hear our thoughts," said Dr. Karin Lawson, PsyD, a Psychologist. She continues to note that “stillness produces ...

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SOMETIMES THE BEST WAY FORWARD IS THROUGH
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it is possible to heal. It is even possible to thrive. Thriving means more than just an alleviation of symptoms, more than Band-Aids, more than functioning adequately. Thriving means enjoying a feeling of wholeness, satisfaction in your life and work, genuine love and trust in your relationships, pleasure in your body..

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SELF CONTROL

“He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.”  ― Lao Tzu

According to one of the most influential modern psychologists, Walter Mischel, self-control is the capacity to override one's impulse or desire to attain another goal. It is also the ability to ...

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BENEATH OUR SKIN, WE ARE ALL THE SAME

It is interesting to note that once we peel off our skins, we're all the same. We all have brains, hearts, bones, and other organs functioning the way they should, regardless of our skin colors. There may be some variations, but is not significant at all. Only trained forensic anthropologists could identify and note the minute differences.

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