― Roy Bennett
We are inevitably going to face setbacks. We all do. It's impossible to avoid them in life. But it is not about falling or failing; it is the way we respond that matters. The truth is, we don't have to stay down. We can get back on our feet. Again. And Again. Just like the bobo dolls.
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#𝟏: 𝐍𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐑𝐄𝐒𝐈𝐆𝐍 𝐭𝐨 𝐚 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐢𝐭.
Admitting a failure is a strength. Resigning to it is a sign of weakness. Instead, work on the blunder by learning and rebounding from it. Even at our weakest moments, we hold our heads high even when everything around us says otherwise. People who never give up believe there is a solution to every problem. So they constantly work to find a suitable resolution to redefine their pursuit. A setback is not a life sentence.
#𝟐: 𝐒𝐞𝐭 𝐒𝐌𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐄𝐑 𝐠𝐨𝐚𝐥𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐜𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐮𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐛𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐠𝐨𝐚𝐥𝐬.
Smaller (not small) goals are easier to achieve regularly, meaning we can set them more often, build off them, and constantly see ourselves improving. Smaller goals also minimize procrastination. They lay down a clear path to success, allowing you to focus on one win at a time, leading to more reasons to celebrate. Sometimes setbacks are set-ups for something more powerful in the longer term, albeit a tiny step at a time.
#𝟑: 𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐝 𝐀𝐍𝐂𝐇𝐎𝐑𝐒 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐬𝐞𝐚𝐬.
When faced with intense adversity, focusing on anything other than the mighty waves and strong winds is difficult. Having a solid anchor helps stabilize us when our navigation system fails. As we reattempt to get back on our feet after a failure, finding the right kind of support or anchors from the right people is essential. One of our main anchors is in God, who never fails to be with us through strong winds and powerful waves. Our other anchors are our family and close friends. The deeper the anchors, the more fearless we become.
If you're struggling with a challenging situation, you don't have to handle everything alone. Don't be afraid to lean on others, be emotionally vulnerable, and express your feelings and needs. Confide with your pastors, friends, and family, or seek professional help.
"𝘚𝘦𝘵𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘥𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯."
― Hiral Nagda
"𝘓𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦, 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘮𝘺 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘴—𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘮𝘦."
― Alex Staniforth
"𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘰 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘏𝘪𝘮 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘴 𝘮𝘦."
― Philippians 4:13
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