How To Thrive During The Winter Seasons Of Life

Winter can be harsh, especially when it gets frigid,
frosty, and downright freezing. Metaphorically, Winter seems to
represent difficulties, hardships, and desperation. Winter may arrive
when you got laid off from your job, your marriage is crumbling apart,
or someone close to you had just passed on. Such situations will test
the mental and spiritual resolves that require a lot out of you to pull
through it.
Instead of becoming bitter, you CAN get better.
Here are four suggestions on how you can stay W.A.R.M. during the wintry season of your life:
W: WALKTHROUGH, NOT INTO
One
of the worst things to happen in our lives is letting bad experiences
negate us permanently. King David of Israel wrote in his "blog" that he
"walked through the valley of the shadow of death." It is important to
note that he did not walk INTO and become fused with his struggles. He
did not apply for permanent residency in the valley but kept walking
through it. Seasons come and go, and Spring is always waiting around the
corner. Keep moving forward, and you will eventually meet it. And, by
the way, movement keeps you warm too.
"If you're going through hell, keep going." — Sir Winston Churchill
A: ACKNOWLEDGE THE SITUATION BUT LIVE THE SOLUTION
Denial
only serves to protract the season of pain. What is ignored does not
necessarily go away. On the other hand, accepting reality helps you
cognitively and spiritually find ways to adapt and regain control.
Healthy adaptations often involve changing your perception and finding
solutions. Turn your focus on those solutions and live it.
"It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change." ― Leon C. Megginson
R: REACH OUT FOR SUPPORT
Social
isolation makes people cold, literally. Emotional challenges can seem
insurmountable when you are dealing with it alone. With a support system
in place, it not only helps you cope better; it also emits the warmest
of feelings when friends and family come to rally around you during your
darkest (or coldest) moment. Don't be ashamed to reach out for help.
Isolation can lead to desolation.
"We don't heal in isolation, but in community." ― S. Kelley Harrell
M: MUSTER ALL YOU GOT
Don't
give up the fight yet. Using fishermen analogy, Peter taught us to CAST
all our anxieties. It means mustering all your strength to throw out
your worries just as the fishermen would do with their nets. Holding on
to their nets will not yield any harvest. Similarly, holding on to your
bitterness will not help in the healing process. It requires courage,
strength, and belief to do so. Mustering is a form of exercise. It helps
build physical, emotional, and spiritual muscles. By the way,
exercising keeps you warm too.
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." Apostle Peter
Winter
may be here for some of you, but remember, it will soon pass. After
Winter, gorgeous Spring will show up, for sure, and the sun will shine
once again. Hang in there and stay W.A.R.M. in the meanwhile.
"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly." – Richard Bach
"Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength." Nehemiah, The King's Cupbearer
Fred Tokè aka Dr. Tokèmon